Befriend Your Mind and Body (Without Making It a Big Project)
For years, I was afraid of my own body. I mean, really afraid. My inner world felt like a danger zone—panic attacks, anxiety, burnout—you name it. At one point, I truly thought I might die (spoiler: I didn’t). My body felt like a strange, unpredictable creature I couldn’t understand, and the professionals I turned to didn’t get it either. Misdiagnoses piled up, from collapsed lung to ADD, but none of them were right because what was really happening wasn’t in any medical textbook.
What was really happening was that I wasn’t listening. I wasn’t paying attention to the cues of my body or the whispers (sometimes screams) of my mind. For years, I did things I didn’t want to do—jobs, roles, and daily activities and interactions that didn’t light me up—because I believed that’s just how life was supposed to be. And each time, it made me feel more stuck in my mind and body, resulting in high anxiety and utter discomfort. When my body acted up, I’d think, “Something’s wrong with me; I’m just different.” I dismissed my inner world as sick, but really, it was incredibly wise—I just didn’t understand its language.
Maybe you feel it too—the constant chatter of a mind on high alert, trying to solve every problem and keep you “safe.” Or a body that feels like the enemy, overwhelmed, numb, or in pain, and you just want it to stop. Or maybe you are fully disconnected, and feel nothing at all. Most of us are out of sync with our mind and body because we’ve learned, from childhood, to operate on autopilot. We’ve inherited scripts that tell us how to survive, and in doing so, we disconnect from what we truly feel.
Why We End Up Here (Hint: It’s Not Your Fault)
Most of us have been living out of sync with our mind and body for years, and guess what? It didn’t start yesterday. This usually begins in childhood. We pick up patterns and beliefs—little programs that tell us how to survive in the world. They’re not bad things; they’re just things that happened. We learned to disconnect from what we truly feel and think, and instead, we operate on auto-pilot. Society, parents, teachers—they all had a hand in writing this script. And there is no blame here, remember: most of us experience this - it just get’s passed on - we don’t know better.
So, when we feel overwhelmed, anxious, or numb, our usual strategy is to escape—whether it’s binge-watching TV, scrolling endlessly on social media, grabbing that extra glass of wine, or overworking ourselves. And here’s the thing: on short term they might make us feel better but in the long run these escapes don’t. They keep us stuck in a loop. They make us feel drained, empty, and disconnected. Instead of solving the problem, they often add to it, creating a loop of exhaustion and dissatisfaction. Realizing this—having that moment of awareness where you go, “Aha, this is what’s happening”—is the first step. Then comes the willingness to change, to believe that you do deserve better. And that step is to start befriending the mind and body, learning to be okay with both comfort and discomfort.
Becoming Aware Without Turning It Into a Full-Time Job
The key isn’t to make this a massive project. It’s about curiosity and noticing. When we really listen to the sensations in our mind and body, even the uncomfortable ones, we begin to hear their true intentions. The anxiety isn’t just panic; it could be a voice saying, “I’m scared, acknowledge me.” The exhaustion might be your body whispering, “I’m carrying too much—please let go.” These sensations are here to guide us back to ourselves, to show us where we need more love, care, and alignment.
I’ve been on this journey for years, learning to decode these messages. I’ve learned that my mind and body aren’t enemies—they’re just trying to keep me safe. Emotions like fear, anger, and sadness, once forbidden, are now in full part of my inner world. I’ve come to terms with all my thoughts—both loving and “self-destructive”—understanding they all have something to say.
An Invitation to Befriend Your Mind and Body
Maybe, like me, you’re also struggling to connect with your mind and body, living in overwhelm or feeling out of place in your own skin. I’ve walked this path and helped many others find calm in the storm. If you feel ready, and if you feel the pull, reach out. Let’s explore this together. You deserve to feel safe in your own body, to understand your mind’s language, and to live fully in harmony with yourself. Sometimes, it just takes a little curiosity and a willingness to listen.
If you feel ready, I invite you to book a free orientation call with me. Together, we can explore how to bring more calm and clarity into your life and see how I can support you on this journey.
Much love, Thomas
